Who needs a professional coach?

We seem to be everywhere: parenting coaches, relationship coaches, career coaches, leadership coaches, money coaches, and the catch-all life coaches. Some of us help you get clear on what's next in your professional life or how to handle a promotion to a senior role; others help with changing how you think about something as a way to get unstuck from it. By and large, we are all in the business of helping you get from where you are now to where you wish or want to be.

In addition to the different types of coaches, there are different philosophies and frameworks around coaching. Some adhere to a specific modality, such as NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), while others take a solutions, values or positive psychology approach.

So given all this variety, it's useful to think about what you want coaching for, and what kind of coach will get you there. Coaching works better than most learning modalities because it is focused on you and your unique circumstances, but you need to be clear on what you want it to do for you, and what you expect from your coach. 

By the way, lots of people become coaches, building on careers in business or consulting, without specific coach training or certification. Unlike being a psychologist or therapist, there are as of yet no licensing prerequisites, and no requirement to join the ICF (International Coaching Federation), so just about anyone can hang a shingle and charge money to have a conversation with you about your goals. 

I decided to go through the lengthy training and certification process to become a professional certified coach because I believe in an ethical and regulated coaching profession, and along with my fellow certified peers, we are committed to meeting strict credentialing criteria and adhering to a robust set of ethical standards, in service of our clients' needs. You should expect no less.

Most coaching helps you get clear on the issue at hand, then prompts you to make choices about what to do about it. My coaching takes an alternate route. 

Whether you accomplish a goal or not is less of interest to me. Wait, what? you ask. Please let me explain. 

What I do is help you become who you long to be. I do this by providing the kind of relationship you won't have with anyone else—one in which you engage in the most honest, put-it-all-on-the-table conversations with yourself, guided by my questions, challenges and candid feedback. The more you get clear on who you are and who you want to become, the simpler it is to make decisions about doing things that align with that.

Essentially, I don't think you can really DO you until you can fully BE you. 

When you work with me, the focus is exclusively on bringing into clear relief what holds you back, pressing through fear and uncertainty, so you can become grounded in a set of principles that govern your thinking and behaviour. From there, you choose how these principles show up in your role as a leader, a business owner, a spouse, a parent, a co-worker or any other role you have or take on.

A few things you should know about how I think and work:

• Benchmarking our lives against what other people do or have accomplished, or any societal norm that does not equally validate or celebrate anything outside these conventions, prevents you from figuring out and acting on what you really want. I believe the shape our lives often takes has more to do with avoiding things that scare us or make us uncomfortable, than with making choices that push us to learn, grow and find fulfillment. As your coach, I accompany you as you release the beliefs and stories that keep you stuck.
• I don't believe we all need a capital P purpose in life and can only find meaning from "living" that purpose. Sorry... I call BS on that. Rather, I believe we long for experiences in which we feel fully alive, and we are starved for moments of awe, connection and peace in this bewildering and distracting world. As your coach, I help you create cracks in your self-protective tendencies, so the light can get in and you can more fully experience your unique life in all its complexity.
• Becoming a better leader starts with focusing on what it means to be a better person. Leadership development without fundamental, intentional and conscious human development only perpetuates the thinking that leadership is a skill-set you can pick up in a few workshops, and not a daily practice of self-awareness and values-based choice-making—and further embeds systems of hierarchy and control that shut people down, preventing them from doing the best work of their lives. As your coach, I help you shape your leadership practice and legacy through every word you use and every action you take.

A few more things: I went through my coach certification process after years working in organizational development roles, and helping teams become more effective. I loved (and still do) supporting people in strategy development and collaborative efforts of all kinds, specifically helping a group shape how they work together, and working with, and through, conflict. It was in pairing up with my own coach, however, that I saw my limiting beliefs laid before me—specifically my fear of being who I actually was and not 'performing' a likeable version of myself—and from there, make life-changing shifts in both my personal and professional life. 

Basically, once I experienced coaching, it was absolutely clear that no amount of reading, training, therapy, work-shopping or mentoring would ever have the profound impact on my thinking, feeling and behaviour as coaching did. I built a new framework for my life, changed behaviours that no longer served me and started operating from a strong desire to feel alive, doing the things I imagined I would "some day." Like buying a log cabin on a lake, writing a book about how bad we collectively are at leadership (and what to do about it), and leaving a job that left me bluer than a bottle of Windex. I became a coach because coaching changed me. I know it will change you.

Lastly, I keep things real by facing new fears, trying new things, and asking myself a lot of questions; I won't invite a client to step into ways of thinking or being where I have not gone before. There is no end to this, only deeper insights and over time, better choices. And often more fun.

Work with me and together, we will build the nest from which flight is possible.